“A must-read for anyone ready to rediscover their spark.
The Sure Thing provides a simple and practical path to ongoing sexual fulfillment based on your specific desires. I loved the interactive nature of the book; it feels like having a wise, loving friend cheering you on toward more joy and connection. The author’s warmth and humor make the topic feel safe, accessible, and empowering. It’s not just a book; it’s a gentle, joyful invitation to reclaim the embodied pleasure you want. Highly recommended for anyone craving more intimacy and aliveness.”
Dr. Laurie Mintz, psychologist, professor emerita, author of Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It
“The Sure Thing has more exercises to help people think about, discuss, explore and have sex than I’ve seen in any other book! I’ll be recommending it to my clients to help them open up more to what it means to explore intimacy with each other.”
Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, author of I Want This To Work
“The Sure Thing is a wildly entertaining and instructive roadmap to self discovery, intimacy and joy. Elana’s committed activism, inspired optimism, and practical, down-to-earth advice and exercises made it hard for me to put this book down. For anyone seeking more pleasure in their lives, this book is a sure thing AND a must read.”
Liz Childs Kelly, award-winning author of Home to Her: Walking the Transformative Path of the Sacred Feminine
“Instead of sacrificing ourselves and burning our lights out, the practices Elana shares and lives herself give us energy, and remind us that our bodies and hearts are where our power and pleasure lives.”
Christine Arylo, MBA, author of Overwhelmed and Over It: Embrace Your Power To Stay Centered & Sustained in a Chaotic World
“Elana warmly invites you to explore a cornucopia of practices, rituals, exercises and games that make it easy to go step-by-step from wherever you are now to where you dream of being! She offers a gentle hand to guide you on an empowerment journey, providing a practical guide to erotic self-discovery, sexual fulfillment, and discovering your pleasure potential.”
Sheri Winston, Wholistic Sexuality Teacher, author of Women’s Anatomy of Arousal, founder of the Intimate Arts Center
“The Sure Thing isn’t just a book—it’s an invitation back into your body and your pleasure. Elana has this rare way of making intimacy feel accessible, playful, and deeply sacred all at once. As a sexologist and intimacy coach, I’ve read countless books on connection, but this one hit differently—it made me slow down, breathe, and remember that desire isn’t something we wait for; it’s something we create. If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your body or your partner, this book will remind you that it doesn’t take a miracle to feel alive again—just a little intention and a lot of curiosity.”
Dr. Stacy Friedman, Sexologist/Certified Sex Coach
“The Sure Thing is a brilliant solution to a painful struggle many couples face. After 20 years as a Relationship and Dating Coach, I wholeheartedly believe this book can shift a fizzling sex life into one that not only satisfies, but also supports partners to fall more in love with themselves and each other. I already have couples I’d recommend this book to!”
Shana James, M.A., author of Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Connection and Keep Relationships Alive
“The Sure Thing is a sacred reminder that pleasure is not something to earn and shame isn’t something to hold us back. Elana’s words and practices invite women to soften the old patterns of shame and striving that often keep us from truly feeling at home in our bodies. This book is a reclamation of the feminine, a love letter to every woman who’s ready to live fully, freely, and without apology.”
Julie Santiago, Founder and CEO of We Are The Women
“The Sure Thing offers a delicious invitation to prioritize pleasure and nourish ourselves through sensual play! Elana has created a deep and whimsical manifesta for radically repatterning our relationships with eros. This book is a blueprint in deepening our sensual and relational capacities – both with ourselves and with a partner or partners. Chock full of practices to try, powerful stories, and reflection questions to sit with, The Sure Thing IS a sure thing to jumpstart, enhance and illuminate pleasure possibilities in your life!”
Taya Mâ, ritual artist, author, professor, cofounder of Kohenet Hebrew Priestess Movement
